We’ve all heard it a million times: “I’ve made mistakes in my life, but I wouldn’t change a thing. No regrets.” I’ve got one thing to say about that: Bull sh!t
Whatever mistakes we’ve made, and as humans, throughout our lifetimes we’re prone to making A LOT (“Well, it seemed like a good idea at the time…”) I don’t know anyone who can say they have absolutely NO REGRETS. Perhaps I’m wrong? I never DID claim to know everything. I DO know that given the opportunity to go back in time and DEFEND the kid who’s getting picked on rather than join the rest of the student body in mocking him or simply stand by watching it happen, I would surely take the high road and intervene. You never know who’s life you’re going to touch, whether it be in a positive or negative way. That same kid put a plastic bag over his head a year later and took his own life. Granted, he had some issues of his own but I’d be willing to bet that the unnecessary commentary from his classmates certainly didn’t help.
What about the 14 year old girl who starts out as the ugly duckling but then begins to blossom into the swan and suddenly, every boy in the county wants to “get to know” her? She’s craved the attention all the other girls have been showered with and now she finally has the opportunity to get it, even if it means sacrificing her virtue. “All the girls are doing it” so what’s the big deal? The big deal is that perhaps she comes from a good family who taught her manners and values and to abstain from premarital sex because the bible says so. Maybe she’s been taught in school that sexually transmitted diseases can still be passed even with the use of a condom. But most importantly, maybe SHE’S JUST NOT READY! But she goes along with it anyway and she cries silently the whole time, feeling cheap…feeling used….feeling like she is now just like EVERY OTHER GIRL: EASY.
Whether it be a matter of having made poor decisions or acting inappropriately in any number of situations, i.e. choosing the wrong words and hurting someone’s feelings, saying YES when you should have said NO to drugs, gotten behind the wheel of a car when you had NO business driving and then suffering the consequences -either by getting a DUI or into an accident by yourself or worse, with another driver, ALL of these things may teach life lessons but I honestly don’t see how ANYONE with a conscious could carry on with their life saying they have no regret.
While it may be true that things happen for a reason and we wouldn’t be the people we are today had it not been for the choices that led to those lessons being learned, everything has its price. Frankly, I believe regret is the price we pay for these things. It may not haunt you for all eternity, but certainly long enough to contradict the statement “no regrets”, for I am confident we all share them.